(Day 17) 7th April - Remaining Patient in a Team // 5 Chairs, 5 Choices
Working with two international students is a great opportunity to work on my patience, which has been tested a few times. Last week, there was work missed, which resulted into Hannah and I picking up the remaining topics and finalising this. This is no issue, as mentioned before I lack trust but I trust Hannah. As we wanted to move on, we both divided up the missed work and progressed forwarded. Although I am not afraid to say no or speak my feelings, I do avoid what I THINK is unnecessary conversations about work.
My Dad is a very curious person and interesting in humans, feelings, mind and body. He is currently studying a course in Humanistic Counselling Skills. He is the hoping to process into psychotherapy. He is also a qualified yoga instructor and has experience working witihn mindfulness. Having a catch up, I told him about the module and self-reflective log. We were also talking about Transactional Analysis (the ego states) and how childhood experiences can shape who you are as a team member. I found this extremely interesting, I asked him to guess my general role/s within a team and he described me extremely well. Alongside, saying he thinks I would delegate and 'look after', he said he thinks I would be impatient. His theory behind this is that as a child I was extremely needy (still am). Therefore, when needs aren't met I become impatient and emotional, like my child behaviour. Whilst this made perfect sense to me, it led me to think well how can I work on something that is embedded so deep within? However, as it impacts my emotional state and quickly, patience, as they say, is a virtue.
Although I enjoy reading, I love podcasts and TED talks, as you can walk along and listen. I came across Louise Evans - Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success. The behavioural expert references 5 chairs for 5 choices in how we react daily.
When I am being impatient, I only bounce between the red and yellow chair, mainly red. Easier said than done, in the heat of the moment, I need to start consider green, blue and purple. In the next situation I feel impatient or reactive, what is triggering me? How can this be avoided? How can I move from red to green, blue and purple? I think for me, I need to move into the green chair to allow myself to take a moment. As I can become passionate and reactive, I can speak and do in the moment. By taking time to reflect, observe and consider I can progress into the other chairs.
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